We will all experience grief and loss at some point in our life, it is unavoidable.
When most people think of grief and loss the first thing that often comes to mind is the death of a loved one or someone close, even a beloved family pet. While it is true that this can cause grief due to a death, there are also other types of grief associated with different types of loss that are easily overlooked.
- Loss of capacity, such as not being able to work due to medical illness.
- Loss of culture and support that was once present in someones life.
- Loss and grief before death itself, such as the news of a terminal diagnosis.
- Loss of a parent, such as a parent diagnosed with dementia.
These are just a few of the many examples that may cause grief and loss issues within us and it is important we become familiar with them so they are not missed or overlooked.
Grief and loss is unique to each person:
Different people will cope with grief and loss in different ways and this will also vary with the varying types of loss that may affect their lives. Some effective ways to assist someone suffering may be finding a support group and having family and friends close by. However these and other factors may also make grieving difficult in different circumstances, which is why it is useful to have a counselor, like myself to help support you during a difficult time. We can take the time you need to effectively explore the impact, meaning and changes the loss has brought. We will also look at post-loss growth and what the future will hold.
Grief and loss that persists:
Most people over time will grieve in a way that is right for them and continue on with their lives, though the loss will always be a part of their life. Sometimes though things happen in life that can impact our grieving such as; responsibility of arranging funerals when being the next of kin or demands from others not to mourn as it is unacceptable. This can cause grief to be stunted as it is not mourned properly. This can lead to symptoms of depression, loss of interest in our daily activities and social withdrawal and it is important to recognize that this IS NOT necessarily a mental illness. If you have suffered a loss and there are complex matters involved, having a confidential discussion with me may help to better understand and comprehend the matter as well as treatment options that may be of help.
If this resonates with you or someone who you know it is usually a sign to talk to a counsellor, to assist in identifying what is going on.